The word soulmate is probably one of the most misunderstood words in our English language. What most people think of as a soulmate is actually the meaning applied to twin flame soulmates. In reality there are many different types of soulmates.

Clients call me all the time asking, “When will I meet my soulmate?” Or, they may ask if the one they just met is their soulmate. Still others are convinced that the one that got away is their only soulmate and they are doomed to be unhappy in love, because no one else will ever do. Others, who are in addictive, co-dependent or completely dysfunctional relationships, also sometimes ascribe the name soulmate to their partner. The familiarity that we feel with certain individuals is there because we have been together many times, but it isn’t necessarily always romantic.

“Whatever relationships you have attracted in your life at this moment, are precisely the ones you need in your life at this moment.” ~ Deepak Chopra

Astrology teaches us that relationships come together to help us and teach us, enabling us to grow and evolve. Past life regression shows us the same. Some souls regularly join us to help us, to be a part of our lives, and work together. However, in one life, they may be our father, in another our mother, in another our child or sibling, and in another our dearest friend. Or we may even find that we were a slave or servant to them in a past life, and they were our master.  In one instance of past life regression, the client had come together with a spouse who had killed her children and spouse in a previous life.  In this life, they married so that he could give back to her the children he had taken away in a previous life.  Once this was accomplished, she was free to leave him.

I see many people who are married to people they felt had to be a soulmate, as there was such a strong love between them. The love was real, but it was on a more platonic level and not physical or romantic. Why is this?  Because, their past life history shows the love built up strongly over multiple lifetimes, but they were siblings, parent and child, and best friends – not lovers. So, in the current life, the love is so strong they feel they have to be soulmates. Are they? Yes. But, they are not romantic soulmates and do not fit the twin soul ideal.

In my own life, I met someone who I felt had to be that magical soulmate that books and songs are written about. I can’t imagine ever feeling that strongly about anyone else. Yet, in past life exploration, I found that he was not considered to be a true soulmate and that he was merely a helper soul. In one past life he had saved me from a terrible marriage, and in this life he had come back in to save me again from marriage to the wrong person. Once the danger of making that mistake was over, there was no more reason for us to be together and the relationship dissolved for no apparent reason.

“A soulmate is someone to whom we feel profoundly connected, as though the communicating and communing that take place between us were not the product of intentional efforts, but rather a divine grace.” ~ Thomas Moore

This is a common occurrence for relationships. When the purpose for being together has been met, the relationship often just dissolves and you drift away from each other often without any obvious reason.

Many believe that each of us has only one true soulmate. I believe this to be untrue, as all of us are connected on a soul level. We are all ONE.

Imagine a drop of water in a glass, next to a well or a stream. The drops of water in this glass are more closely linked than they are to the drops of water in the well or the stream.  Yet, if you pour the glass into the stream, you cannot tell one drop from another. They are all closely bound, as one body of water. So it is with our souls. The ones in closer proximity to us for a longer period of time seem to be more familiar – hence the term soulmates.

However, you can only determine one drop of water from another by separating them. By combining them with more water, they become a part of the whole body of water – one!

So, your friends, family, lovers, children, teachers, and even enemies and rivals, can all be soulmates. You all incarnated together to serve a particular purpose and grow and learn together. Anyone, who inspires us to stretch, grow, heal and become more than we previously were is a soulmate.

Embrace all who are in your life – your lessons and hardships, as well as your joys. As you learn to embrace all of life, you will find yourself connected in joyful and successful ways you had never previously imagined.